Not to want to know the details of the death or to think that to cry very heartbrokenly it makes us lose the entereza they are some of the topics that with more frequency we tried to avoid when the loss of a dear being takes place. The psychologists we recommended to separate from the following errors: Pensar that when the person dies it loses its memory the emotional memory and entailments does not disappear. They remain, and they appear in the form of fleeting memories or dreams. Creer that to surpass the pain we must return immediately to our daily tasks Agrees that we occur a time to reflect and to live the pain being borne the duro emotional process that supposes the loss. Pensar that we do not have to know the details the death nor to see the corpse Although is hard, to know how to the details of the disappearance of the loved person aid to accept the reality of the absence. The lack of information can generate unreal confusion and fantasies. Creer that when rage is demonstrated, pain or hopelessness more has set out to the depression the expression of these feelings are necessary, because it allows that the loss is processed and the duel is elaborated, although can perceive like exaggerated or own manifestations of cultures or countries little developed. Considerar that the affection by the absentee must be expressed with much moderation Although in our culture values the character firmness and the entereza, we must allow us to express the painful emotions freely.
Emprender radical changes is not the best moment to sell properties, to be decided to change of residence, to be made position of the grandsons to palliate the solitude Deja spends the time before making important decisions. Mantener the things like when it was Its clothes in the same site, the room as always you do not make sanctuaries in memory of your dear being. You will always take to him in the memory and, therefore, it will follow with you. Conservar the ashes in house the homes are life spaces, not of death. You do not fall in the temptation to turn your house into a sanctuary. You will make difficult the duel process.